I am one who thinks parenting is being overdone. We are having too many children. The planet does not need this many and would be better if we had less. If you choose to have children don't expect us to thank you. Already the childless are forced to subsidize those who have children.

When you discuss with our partner about the decision to have children that is the time to set the expectations of roles and responsibilities not after the fact. Of course this almost never happens and some people have children without even having a proper discussion about whether to have kids or how many.

I understand unintended pregnancy can be the result of various failures of society not just the individual.

I don't need to hear about how if my parents thought like I did then I would not exist. If I did not exist nobody would miss me. My parents would have given the attention they gave to me to my siblings or other causes. Having children is a selfish thing to do. You don't have children for society or the children's sake you do it for the love you get to share, the meaning it adds to your life. It is greedy.

It seems to me mothers get more out of having children and give more to raising children. I think mothers want children more than fathers. I am talking in general as I also know that some men use women to have children that they then don't help much to raise but they still claim the role of fatherhood. Some men will brag about have children with multiple women. Spreading your genes around is not fatherhood. I helped my deceased wife raise two girls with two different fathers but I was the real Dad. She asked me if I wanted a child with her and I told her I already had two and that was enough.

TEK