I am stealing this. "When you’re used to privilege, equality feels like oppression." I don't think you originated this, we all know this but still, succinctly put.

Another thing about your story, you talk about Mothers spoiling their sons. You don't address if the Fathers are absent or just allow it. Dads spoil their daughters but rarely are the Mothers absent to allow it to stick. Both my wives were very demanding of their daughters. Their Mothers were very demanding of them. They all hated and loved their Moms. Yeah, the Dads were mostly absent. I was more the Dad to these kids than their Fathers.

TEK