Let me share my anecdotes. I have had more than my share of sloppy seconds as my wife would call them including her. My first long relationship was with a roommate’s ex. My first wife had a child with two different men before we met. The same for my second wife. I only broke up with one of the women with whom I had a longish relationship. I have been dumped a few times.

We are all looking for the best deal we can get. I think that some regret dumping me. They did not end up trading up. Romance is the art of making a transaction seem not so. Incells lack finesse. Offer someone a good deal but leave room to think it is love and it is or can be everyone loves a win win deal.

TEK