Your story is incomplete and inconstant. Were you fired or laid off? Shouldn’t you have qualified for COBRA so health care should even be part of the story.
Why do you think that your gender and motherhood were the cause of your dismissal? I am not saying it wasn’t, you just provided nothing to support the claim?
Why did you wait until after you were dismissed to complain about the arbitration clause?
How many salary levels up from new hire to VP? In my field, division VP is a level 7. Rarely does anyone under 50 make VP or even level 6 Director. I was laid off after working 29 years at level 5, Sr. Manager.
Does surprise you that potential employers would shy away from you if you sued your previous employer?